Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Stay at Home Mom?

We have decided that we need help.

Since having Carter, I have been a stay at home mom. I have enjoyed it. I chose to be a stay at home mom. I know that Jeremy would have supported me if I wanted to go back to work but I loved to be home.

Having two kids, I could handle it and still loved being a stay at home mom.

Then I had Brayden, the third.

I thought I could handle his crazy schedule and still keep up with Carter and Luke's schedule.

I cannot handle it.

We decided that we need help.

Since school started, we are juggling appointments, therapies, school, school activities, etc. I cannot juggle anymore, too many balls are being dropped.

Thus we started a full search for help. One person, full time for Brayden and one person part time for Carter and Luke. Sounds great but I have a big mental hurdle. I never thought I would be one of those people with a nanny. I am a stay at home mom because I want to be a stay at home mom. The idea of having someone in my house...it is just not what I expected to happen when raising my boys.

Having a nanny is a bit scary. Carter and Luke can tell us about the person: what they did or did not do, activities, and more. Brayden cannot do that. He has seizures, meds, feeding tube... Will they know how to handle it? I have rarely left him with family let alone someone else.

We can list all of the qualifications that would be good but how do I find that person that will love and care for them, far beyond feeding and dressing them.

I pray that we will find the right people, a good fit for our family. I know that it will be great to have a nanny because we need help.

1 comment:

IMHO said...

With all the medical schools and medical institutes, etc. in the area, perhaps you could call the financial aid office and find out if there are any med or nursing students who need a part-time job. I know at Clemson, they will put a notice up on the job board at the financial aid office. If you can find someone who is in/training to be in the medical field, it might help you feel more at ease. You might also check with local EMS/fire as every firefighter/paramedic I know works at least one or two jobs!

Good luck! your cuz, Debra