Tuesday, April 18, 2017

Georgetown Cupcake

Georgetown Cupcake donated 7 dozen cupcakes for Brayden's birthday. How did this happen?!

It all started in 2008, we were still trying to understand Brayden's ever-changing needs. We discovered a little cupcake shop (Georgetown Cupcake's original place). Stopping for cupcakes became a part of our DC routine. A day at the hospital...well that certainly deserves a cupcake. Their little pink box somehow added a bit of happiness to whatever happened that day. When Carter and L...uke were little, they had to come along to many hospital and doctor appointments, so why not bribe them with cupcakes?! Then the cupcakes became part of our celebrations for school, birthdays, etc. Well...we may have talked about our cupcake stops quite often so friends (you know who you are) brought us cupcakes, when they happened to be downtown. Our pediatrician even got in on the action, texting us about the secret cupcake of the day when we were downtown (FYI, if you know the secret cupcake, ask for it and it is free). 

I knew that if we made it to Brayden's 10th birthday, Georgetown Cupcakes had to be a part of it. Brayden does not eat but he does like the icing. Georgetown Cupcake is just part of our trekking back and forth to DC for many years now. I sent Georgetown Cupcake a message about Brayden's birthday, they replied immediately and offered to comp the order. Their kindness and generosity is all the more reason to love it. I cannot thank them enough for being a part of Brayden's big birthday celebration!
#georgetowncupcake #dccupcakes

Monday, April 17, 2017

10 years

10 years ago, Brayden was born. 10 years ago today, we were still delightfully oblivious to any of Brayden's health problems. The top picture has always been hanging in our kitchen, the sweetness and frankly a lot of innocence, helps me remember that in all of this there is joy, simple joy. It was not until a couple of days later that we started to discover his brain was not formed properly. But God knew and thankfully all of Brayden's troubles have been slowly rolled out ...over the years because there is just no way we could have handled them all at once. Brayden's from the beginning, such truth:
Psalm 139: 13-18
"For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you…Your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be."

Today we celebrate his 10 years but also that we made it 10 years! I would never let my mind wander, to think about him getting older. We have never known a diagnosis or how much time we have with him. Whoa, we made it 10 years!
Oh how much we love him!

In honor of his birthday, donate $10 for his 10 years to Jill's House.
comment: In honor of Brayden's 10th birthday.
for more info on Jill's House - jillshouse.org

Friday, March 31, 2017

They Change You

Having children changes you.  Having a special needs child changes you, down to every fiber of your being.   We have two older boys, Carter and Luke.  Brayden is our youngest.  Yes having Carter and Luke changed us but then came Brayden and well...
What does having a special needs, medically complex child do to you?  You have a child that is completely dependent on you…literally you are responsible for keeping that child alive; whatever their version of healthy may be, comfortable, feeling loved, etc. 

They change:
  • How you see life and death
  • How you handle life, in the little and big things
  • How you participate in life and activities (or don’t, which happens more often than not)
  • How you parent that child
  • How you parent your other children
  • How you love – a love that you never knew existed, and the word love just does not seem to do it justice
  • How you hurt – and boy it can hurt
  • How you see the value and “quality” of life
  • Your family structure
  • Your marriage
  • Your identity
  • Your needs
  • Your emotions
  • Your faith
  • How you have friendships – you just don’t have time or energy for anything but quality friendships
  • Your lifestyle
  • Your finances – how you spend money on your home, vehicles, savings, insurance, medical items, etc.
  • Your time
  • Your priorities and how you make decisions
  • Your self-care and caring for others
  • Your coping skills
  • Sleep
  • Endurance – I call it the sleep over effect.  During the sleep-over (aka medical crisis) you are on and ready to go.  Once the passes, whether it be hours or days or weeks, then you crash.  Like a child that had a sleep over, totally up all night but crashes once home and sleepover is done.
  • Your senses – I can hear the pump going off from a mile away.  Sniff out a feeding pump spill or poo situation from another room.
  • Your gut – sometimes you just know something is not quite right, sometimes you know something will be alright, even to the contrary (or doctors) and you have to trust that God-given “gut” feeling
  • Your vacations or lack there of
  • Your time management or ability to makes plans (making plans can just be laughable)
  • Your dependence on others (which some of us just don’t like to do)
  • Your need for help
  • Your need for community and support because isolation is very real and easy to slip in to
  • Your ever expanding medical knowledge and comfort level in all medical situations. And uncanny ability to recall any given medical fact about your child but cannot remember what you ate the day before
  • Your circle, which mostly involves doctors, nurses, case managers, insurance companies, equipment companies, special-ed and pharmacists.  Because they are who you interact with often.
  • Realizing you have very little control and thank goodness God's got this because it is too much for us to handle.
  • Your flexibility in situations and absolute stand-my-ground when fighting for your child
  • Your voice. You learn to speak often and when needed, especially when you have a child that cannot speak for themselves.
  • Hopes, dreams, goals, expectations that you had for the child and perhaps your family.  You adjust.
  • Milestones - You learn to grieve certain things but celebrate other things, new milestones
  • Embracing different hopes, joys and celebrations
And all that, changes you for the better.  It has changed you in ways that you did not even know possible or expected. 

Everything about your life, and your family, goes through filter of caring for that child.  Your child changes everything.

Friday, March 24, 2017

Where are we?

Sorry all, Brayden is doing fine.  I just needed a break from blogging but will be back to it very soon.

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